The lonely hearts club

This post is for all my singles. It's that time of year again where we get smacked with holidays and family - friend gatherings back to back. Although it's not necessarily a bad thing, if you're single and you're kind of a loner, this season hits differently for you. Forget about Valentine's day (ugh, the worst... it's my birthday and I dread it every year). First of all, If you're single and find it difficult to be on your own, It's okay. I promise you, you won't be single forever. Use this time to focus on you. As my buddy would tell me, " do EVERYTHING for you." Essentially, practice self- love. What does that look like? I'm glad you asked. I've compromised a list:

1. Positive thoughts only - Tell yourself you are bomb everyday!

2. Speak about what you're grateful for - Journaling helps

3. Take a trip solo dolo - Go off grid. Once you take one trip by yourself, the rest are a piece of cake.

4. Blast some feel good music - We be vibin'.

5. Sip & Paint - I've actually done this quiet a few times... so much fun.

6. Movie night - Pick one day out of the week when everyone else is at work. Less lines, less distractions.

7. Find a new restaurant - Comfort food. The best spots are the ones you have to drive to.

8. Start a skin care routine - Face masks are everything.

9. Get a massage - The best thing you never knew you needed. Let that tension go.

10. Dress up - Be "coffin - ready" ( that sounds morbid lol... just be sharp. Even if you don't end up going anywhere. Feel great about yourself )

11. Learn a new language - Rosetta stone anyone?

12. Join a gym - Get your mind right and your body tight.

13. Pick up an instrument - Music is a universal language.

14. Shop for a pet - Pets are a great source of emotional support.

15. Camping / Glamping - Get outdoors. Connect and ground with Nature.

16. Volunteer at a soup kitchen - A very humanitarian way to give back to the community.

17. Buy yourself a gift - Or several. Always treat yourself.

18. Read - Information is power.

19. Get your nails/ feet / hair done - Self explanatory

20. Shop for a new wardrobe - Old clothes carry old energy. Out with the old, in with the new.

21. Meet new people - Don't leave everything to dating sites. You have neighbors too.

22. Pick up a hobby - Make something a routine and commit to it.

23. Clean and detox your space - Keep things organized so you can function. (I highly recommend you sage )

24. Explore a Religion - Find your spiritual center.

25. Talk to a therapist - No better way to be seen and heard... and know how to deal with your triggers.